How to flirt. ;)

I naturally consider myself a natural flirt. I know that is bad sometimes, but oh well. I have a friend who does not know how to flirt. At all. I know I did a post like this before, but I wanted to do another one.

1. Wear something that makes you feel flirty. Flirting is all about attitude and while a guy's receptiveness to your flirting may depend greatly on how you look, the most important thing is to dress in a way that makes you feel good about yourself. You could look fantastic in something attention-grabbing, but if you feel uncomfortable and not like yourself and slouch and cross your arms and display unapproachable body language, you'll be a terrible flirt. Experiment with your appearance until you can look at your reflection in the mirror and feel like you've given your beauty the representation it deserves. Accept yourself, revel in your best features and your individuality, and you'll have a great foundation for flirting: confidence.

2.  Be playful. Don't be uptight. Don't worry about how you look. Don't get too hung up on everything being perfect. Just relax. Smile. Be goofy, crack jokes, and laugh. Be laid back. Have fun. Don't be afraid to tease him a little! (Just don't go overboard—the point is to be playful, not mean.)

3.  Use positive body language. Angle yourself toward other people, sit or stand with an upright (but not stiff) posture, and uncross your arms. Make eye contact. Smile often.

4.  Break the touch barrier. Touch him lightly on the arm or shoulder when you're talking. Just make it a quick, innocent touch, and don't make a big deal out of it. Holding hands is also a good way to break the touch barrier. The simple act of touching can strengthen the intimacy between you and him.

• Sometimes, he will break the touch barrier, and if you're comfortable with him doing so, touch him back.
• Another good way of breaking the touch barrier is to "compare hand sizes" then smile and lace your fingers for a moment. This is a cute way to "break the barrier."
• Other subtle ways to touch him without just reaching up and grabbing his arm or something is to brush imaginary fuzz off of his shoulder, fix his sweatshirt string, casually tapping him while laughing, resting your head on his shoulder if you’re tired, or playfully punching or tickling him as a joke. These will all signify comfortable boundary-crossing in an innocent manner.

5.  Compliment him. Be sure to compliment them in a casual and friendly way on things that are true. Sometimes, people will make up compliments just to talk to someone, but that is the totally wrong way to give a compliment. You really should compliment on things you really like, so you sound more sincere naturally. Sometimes, complimenting their family or other things they are proud of works.


6.  Show interest. Get to know him by asking about, and showing interest in, his life. Ask about his interests, jobs, family, friends, etc.